A Message to Violent Residents and Their Systems.

For violent residents,

I have been there. I have been the one who put the body at risk for harm. I almost put a hand through a car window. I am still an insomniac. I still become triggered. I am still a bloody mess.

You do not have to live that way. You are family. No matter how you came about, you have people there to help you. You can work together to make sure you do not end up in a mental hospital. They’ve not changed since the Victorian Era. You also have those damned psychologists who make it seem like you have to fit into some role, people see you as batty because you are not alone in your own head, or because you have been through horrors that no person should go through. I remember when I could not speak a word, and would lash out at others in the system. I would have ended up harming the body and others, if I had the chance. However, I had so much support from others in the system, and from some outsiders as well. I made an effort to change. Now, I am not perfect. I still have very bad days, but I have good days, as well. You can change, too. I believe that. It is not going to happen over night. It is going to take time and patience on behalf of yourself and your system. You may feel alone, scared, and helpless. You may even feel worthless. However, you are not. I know I thought those sort of things about myself. You just need to work through it, any way you can. You will get through it.

-Celeste

For those with violent residents.

Celeste came around last year. In a role play class, we had to work with masks, and look in a mirror and act. I remember that day clearly. I remember looking in the mirror and feeling like I was not in control anymore. Eris and Isis were in the background, monitoring, and making sure that everything was kept in check. Nothing happened, and we’ve never had an incident of self harm with her. We were afraid of her, and she was impossible to communicate with.

We were unsure of what to do. Then we talked to her. We were finally able to get her to communicate. We found out why she was so fucked up. And we were able to help. She’s part of our family now. You don’t have to fear the violent ones, if you have them. They’re part of your family, too. Give them the same understanding as you would with your outer family. They have their own stories, their own history. They’re still people, and they may frighten and frustrate you, but you can try to talk to them.

I know, it sounds preachy or whatever, but it’s upsetting to see so many people who have this kind of problem. It’s upsetting to see our family not considered people, not worthy of help. It’s sad. One of the reasons we started this blog was so people who are multiple don’t need to feel like they’re crazy, and that no one gets it. There are a lot more of us out there. Hopefully soon, People won’t see you as a freak, or feel like one either.

-Air

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2 Comments »

  1. Ophelia Said:

    Hi, I just wanted to say thank you for writing this instead of treating it like so many other systems out there do. We evicted someone who was violent and causing harm to us and others after everything “sane” didn’t work, then she came back after a bit of things she did. However, she’s still violent-minded and damaged, and upon really thinking and analyzing her, we realized her reason for being so is deeper than her just being our enemy. Therefore, we’ve decided to accept her and help her any way we can.

    So I just wanted to say – thank you and yours for being helpful about this topic, when so many other systems vilify those who have this problem and treat it like it doesn’t exist and like it’s not a big deal. Anyone who has lived with it knows the kind of helplessness it makes everyone feel.

    • ACIE Said:

      Wow, that means a lot to me, and everyone else. Also, I must say I approve of using “Ophelia” as a tag. 😀 But seriously, that means a lot to us. We were trying to figure out what to say about it, because it is a difficult thing to deal with. I personally am really glad we could help. It’s really hard to deal with, and I know she had a difficult time writing about it. I hope everything works out, and you’re able to help your resident. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it in the end.
      -Air


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